How to Overcome Fear
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Spoken by Supreme Master Ching Hai, Auckland, New Zealand, April 27, 2000 (Originally in English) Videotape No. 686Q: When we feel intense fear, what's the reason for it? What's life trying to tell us?
M: It depends. If you're in a fearful situation, it's all right to feel fear. But we don't have to let the fear overcome us so that we'll be paralyzed and don't know how to react in a better way. Fear is a natural emotion. Fear and love are natural emotions. You don't have to suppress it; you just have to understand it and handle it.
For example, do you think I don't have fear? I do. I feared coming here and not knowing what to talk to you about. I feared that I wouldn't know how to make you understand what I understand. I really did fear. Today, I arrived earlier and went to have tea in a shop because I didn't have anything to eat since yesterday. I couldn't eat on the airplane; I was very tired physically because I had to rush with a lot of things in order to pack and then go. I hadn't slept for a long time, so when I got on the airplane, I didn't eat anything. I just tried to sleep or quiet down. Then this morning, I worried that I might sleep in the lecture hall! So I went and had some tea. And then I saw a lot of people sitting there; they were having tea and talking about all kinds of things. And I was wondering: How am I going to tell all these people about God! Do they really care about God? They're so happy with their physical life: Who am I going to talk to and about what? So I was also scared. Not truly scared but really not very encouraged or enthusiastic and not so confident. But then I still did it. You see? I had fear, but I went through with it. It's not that I don't have it. We have fear, but we have to go through it. If it's a fearful situation, we have to think about what we can do to make it better. If it's a fearful person, we have to try to use love to overcome our own fear. The person who's sometimes bad to us makes us fearful, because he or she is an insecure person. So it depends on the situation. Anyway, even if we have fear, we must calm down and think, "OK, I have fear, but now what must I do in this kind of situation to get myself out of this fear?" You have to take control of yourself to get rid of the fear. Taking control of ourselves means dealing with the situation so that we become more secure, and then the fear will disappear. We can't suppress the fear. We have to deal with it and make it better.
