Hsihu Center, Formosa July 15, 1995.
When you go home, take care of your family members. Even though your bugging husbands and wives are fit to throw away (Master and everyone laugh); but since you have already accepted him or her in the first place, better continue. Because sometimes we think if we change partners, married to another wife or husband, then we will feel very, very much better. But it is not always true. And in the later research, people say that ninety three percent American men, if they have to do it again, they marry the same wife. So it's good news for you, the American people. And other countries, France, or European country, or maybe other countries, about sixty percent, seventy percent husbands said the same thing. No country is less than fifty percent, anyhow. So the majority of men love the same women, even though they have divorced and have a high hope to make it better with another one. But, then, after they think it over or they tried, they would prefer to marry the same woman.
When we marry with someone, it takes a long time and a great deal of effort to adjust to each other, is that not so? And then first, the honeymoon is sweet and honey and then later it is scrubbing and it was painful and then later, both of you grow up and get used to each other. And it takes a long time and effort. So it's a pity that now you forsake it and, then, start it all over again, wow! It's the same procedure and same thing.
I accept whatever God sends at that moment and take it for the best. Somebody is the best if we have no one else to compare to, right? So the more we have the opportunity to compare, our partner or whatever the person we are acquainted to, the more we have the reason to complain, and the more confusion, more chaos arise. So it is better we stick to the 'tried' and trusted. And in that case we have less problems, less expectations, and more time to relax and meditate. And whatever problem there is, be sure that if you change the partner, there would be the same at least or even more, you have experienced this or not? Do not talk about husband or wife, if you work outside, with many colleagues or many bosses and, then, you will know what I mean too, right? He has these but he doesn't have the other things. These are always the problem in this world. So I think, you and I( Master and everyone laugh) better learn to accept the things as they come and try to act accordingly, you know what I mean? That's why sometimes you come here and you feel like you want to complain about some of the organization or some of the misunderstandings or things like that. You want to correct them, but if you correct these, later another thing comes. So, you have never really a life without a problem (Master and everyone laugh).
So however we just have to count on God and good luck in order to survive in this world. Otherwise there is no amount of intelligence and wisdom that can cope with the Maya of this world. Just because we happened to lose our way and pass by this illusionary Maya world, so we get punishment for this. We are actually innocent. We just pass by here. And then we get a spell casted upon us and then we are confused. That's why we better find the way to go home quickly ( Master laughs). The later, the worse; the darker it becomes; the worse the situation will be, understand? So anything else like troublesome husband and wives, except when it's extremely, too unbearable, like violence and threatening to your mind and life, then you must consider leaving, and go somewhere else. Otherwise if just personalities, habits and opinions are differences then I think we just try to ignore, try to solve it as much as possible or ignore it in order so that we can concentrate more and then we go home quicker. Otherwise there will be a lot of wasted time for us here, adjusting somebody's habit and personalities while we could advance quicker and quicker, if we concentrate adjusting ourselves in the spiritual practice. Is that not so? So you and I both must remember the important issues and the less important matters so that we can sort out what is the most important. We do it first and we pay more attention to that. I don't mean to interfere in your personal decision or relationship. It's just through experiences and with good intention, I tell you that changing environment and relationships don't always change our luck in life.